To the Boys/Men Upset that they are in the Friendzone

Dear Friendzoned Boy/Man,

Do you know what it truly means to us that we put you in the friendzone? I know that you would never put a girl in the friendzone so why would we do something so demeaning to you? Why on Earth do we choose to put you, a wonderful, caring human-being into the friendzone while we flaunt the unhealthy relationships that we chose over you in your face? How can we be so cruel and deceiving? We, women, are horrible creatures for not choosing you, the friend who has done so much to help us. Do you know what it truly means to the person who friendzoned you?

At some point in our relationship with you, you have shown us that you are someone that we can trust. Oh no, did my car break down and now I need a ride? You are the first person that we will think to call for help. What about when we fight with our significant others and need someone to vent to? Your number is dialed before we can eve stop ourselves. You have made the person who friendzoned you feel safe and secure. You did something that means far more to us than anything else. You are the person that we want to run to. In this case, there is always the chance that you will be chosen in the end but you are still in the friendzone and would need to wait for them to realize that they truly want to be with you.

But why do you get so upset because you had been placed in the friendzone? Is it because you have been put under the assumption that you will never leave the friendzone once there? Or is it because you are just upset that the person that you are interested in is not interested in you?

More often than not women are placed in the friendzone of the person that we are interested in. We watch them run after people who want nothing to do with them or who are just leading them on. We watch them fall apart when the person that they were after chooses someone else. We are almost always there to help pick up the pieces, even trying to keep the "I told you so"s down to a minimum while they lick their wounds and work on getting back to their true form. Do we complain? No...well...maybe to our girlfriends but never to you. We know better because we know that you have free-will and will choose to be with whomever fits your needs more. We understand that since we are the same way.

So why do you become overly upset when someone that you are interested in is not interested in you? Why does it seem like such a horrible thing for the person you like to choose someone other than you? Why is is not enough for you to have a loyal friend, who will be by your side whenever you need it? Why do you get so upset? We were not put on this Earth to be your plaything just like you were not put on this Earth to be our plaything.

Anyone who has ever given anyone a hard time for being put in the friendzone should buy a pair of big kid panties and get over it. This is life. Oh no, this person doesn't like me? Move on. There are billions of people on this Earth. Stop getting hung up over one and find a way to push forward and enjoy life without causing anyone trouble.

For those who have been put in the friendzone and don't care, thanks for being the true friend we all needed.

Making the Life You Want

Over the summer, Josh began his own dog walking business. It has brought quite a lot of opportunities to us, including making things (tug toys, leashes, paw protectors, and more). This has shown me something. This has shown me that we all have it in us to make the life that we want. We have the ability to turn our lives into everything we have ever dreamed of. We can have the big houses and the nice cars. We can have the cooks and cleaners to take care of all of the mundane tasks that we no longer want to do. We can all have the life of our favorite celebrities.

The thing is that we need to work on how we get to the place where we can have all of these things. We need to work on ourselves. Josh realized relatively early enough that he wanted out of the toxic family business and make a life for himself. It has taken us some time to feel secure, there are even moments when we don't, but we are working together to make his vision come true. Instead of allowing his family to try to keep dragging him under the currents, which they had successfully done to his brother, he has been working hard to make this business into everything that he wants and I have been doing everything that I can to help.

This has shown me what I, myself, am capable of. I've made tug toys, leashes, a protective wax for dog's paws (which is also GREAT for human's skin/lips), biscuits - and that's just for dogs! I have spent so much time doubting myself and worrying about things that I shouldn't be worrying about that this has allowed me to see where my priorities truly lie. If I can push myself to be better, to do better, what's stopping you?

We can all make it to that picture perfect life that we keep stored away in our heart. We can all make it to that point. You need to figure out the best way for you to make it to that point. What can you do to get there? Who can help keep you on the right path?

If you want the perfect life, you need to make the perfect life. Nothing is stopping you. Nothing is holding you back. Make the life you want.

Paw Protectors!

Today I made Paw Protectors! We, my fiance and I, will be selling them! They are perfect for furry friends (dogs and cats) to help protect their pads from road/sidewalk chalk and other dirt that they may pick up along the way. This wax is 100% non-toxic for animals and humans, alike, which is great since this amazing on dry skin/lips.

This was super easy to make and I enjoyed making it. There are so many different ways that I can take this recipe!

Maybe This Time I Can Commit

Multiple times now, I have tried to start a blog. I have started them for various reasons: work on my writing, use it as a diary with plenty of anonymous readers to either hinder or help me, use it as an escape. But I have never been able to actually keep up with it. I always let my blogs fall away into the eternal black hole of despair that is the internet. These blogs have fallen away to "due to the lack of activity, this account has been deactivated" messages that I have never seen or acknowledged since I had left these works of - not art... - shit to die. If they haven't been deactivated because somehow they have enough server space for them to not care if it has thousands of inactive accounts.

I want my writing - whether it be mindless rambling or an informative piece - to be and do more. I want my writing to show people that they are not alone in their feelings. I want my writing to spark a discussion in people. I do not want this blog to fall apart and lay forgotten without even having the chance to fly and soar. If that is what ends up happening to this blog, I apologize to anyone who has grown attached to this. If it continues to grow and spread, I hope that you all can enjoy it.

Sincerely,
Catie