To the Boys/Men Upset that they are in the Friendzone

Dear Friendzoned Boy/Man,

Do you know what it truly means to us that we put you in the friendzone? I know that you would never put a girl in the friendzone so why would we do something so demeaning to you? Why on Earth do we choose to put you, a wonderful, caring human-being into the friendzone while we flaunt the unhealthy relationships that we chose over you in your face? How can we be so cruel and deceiving? We, women, are horrible creatures for not choosing you, the friend who has done so much to help us. Do you know what it truly means to the person who friendzoned you?

At some point in our relationship with you, you have shown us that you are someone that we can trust. Oh no, did my car break down and now I need a ride? You are the first person that we will think to call for help. What about when we fight with our significant others and need someone to vent to? Your number is dialed before we can eve stop ourselves. You have made the person who friendzoned you feel safe and secure. You did something that means far more to us than anything else. You are the person that we want to run to. In this case, there is always the chance that you will be chosen in the end but you are still in the friendzone and would need to wait for them to realize that they truly want to be with you.

But why do you get so upset because you had been placed in the friendzone? Is it because you have been put under the assumption that you will never leave the friendzone once there? Or is it because you are just upset that the person that you are interested in is not interested in you?

More often than not women are placed in the friendzone of the person that we are interested in. We watch them run after people who want nothing to do with them or who are just leading them on. We watch them fall apart when the person that they were after chooses someone else. We are almost always there to help pick up the pieces, even trying to keep the "I told you so"s down to a minimum while they lick their wounds and work on getting back to their true form. Do we complain? No...well...maybe to our girlfriends but never to you. We know better because we know that you have free-will and will choose to be with whomever fits your needs more. We understand that since we are the same way.

So why do you become overly upset when someone that you are interested in is not interested in you? Why does it seem like such a horrible thing for the person you like to choose someone other than you? Why is is not enough for you to have a loyal friend, who will be by your side whenever you need it? Why do you get so upset? We were not put on this Earth to be your plaything just like you were not put on this Earth to be our plaything.

Anyone who has ever given anyone a hard time for being put in the friendzone should buy a pair of big kid panties and get over it. This is life. Oh no, this person doesn't like me? Move on. There are billions of people on this Earth. Stop getting hung up over one and find a way to push forward and enjoy life without causing anyone trouble.

For those who have been put in the friendzone and don't care, thanks for being the true friend we all needed.